You spend hours and days to work on something you achieve. It can be for your work or even your hobby. It is just as important that you work to cultivate your relationship and not let go of it over time. A relationship is a commitment that a couple makes and it is their responsibility to make the relationship work.
Following are 8 relationship goals you should incorporate in your happy relationship to flourish even after the initial honeymoon phase.
1. Importance of Having Separate Lives
Have you seen or at least heard of the couples who do each and everything together?
Don’t be that couple. It’s easy to be stuck in a relationship like that. What once started as a fun and happy relationship might come back to haunt you in unexpected ways. Couples, who have a relationship like that, soon realize that they do not have a life independent of their partner. It is important to realize the importance of this as this could lead to a suffocating relationship, and you don’t want to choke on it.
The first goal of your relationship should be to keep your life independent from your partner. It means that you don’t have to push away your family and friends to make your partner happy. Becoming dependent on your partner can become terrifying in the future if you have to do something on your own.
2. Give Importance to Your Relationship
Having that said, it is essential that you focus on your relationship and work for it. While having an independent life, which includes work, family, and friends, it is of utmost importance that you set out time to spend with your partner. Taking a relationship for granted only deteriorates it to the point, where nothing is left.
So, make it a goal that you will spend some time every day to reconnect and talk about your day and life in general. Even if it’s over a cup of coffee, give all of that time to your partner and enjoy each other’s company.
3. Make a Bucket List
A bucket list is a list of things you and your partner plan to do together. The list can include the weirdest and lamest activities, as long as it gives the thrill and rejuvenates your relationship. A bucket list keeps you excited to do things together. It’s like making a bubble around your relationship, and it’s your job to keep up the bubble from bursting.
A bucket list also reinforces the idea of prioritizing your relationship and thinking of it as ‘we’, rather than ‘me’. Then you can work together and take out time to tick off the items you have made on your bucket list. This is a very personalized list specific to only your relationship.
4. Support Each Other’s Goals
When you have realized that you are two independent individuals, it is also needed to realize you both have your separate goals. These are the dreams and goals you may have set long before your relationship, and it is essential that you do not give up on them.
Having a goal doesn’t mean undermining the relationship and leaving it behind. Instead, you should talk with your partner and support them to fulfill their goals. Supporting each other is a lot more than only praising them verbally. It means you may have to make sacrifices to show you’re on board and support your partner wholly.
5. Communicate With Each Other
Communication is the key to a happy life with your partner and should be considered as one of the most important relationship goals. It may seem like something fundamental, but this is where most couples lose the battle and lose their relationship. Communicating without any hesitation proves that you can talk to your partner about everything and be fully committed.
To communicate with your partner, set out time every day and discuss how the relationship is progressing. As we suggested, talk over coffee every day, when you spend time with your partner, discuss your relationship as well. Don’t sweep any problems under the rug to discuss it tomorrow. Tomorrow never comes, and if it does come, it may be too little too late. Say ‘I love you’ to your partner and communicate openly with them.
6. Talk About the Fights
Fights are a part of every relationship. No couple is perfect. Both of you are individuals and can disagree on things. If you never argue and agree on everything, then there is something wrong and you should figure it out.
It’s crucial that you accept your partner’s point of view and make them understand yours. That is the only way to go about the fights. You both will have to compromise at some point and that is what will carry your relationship.
7. Have an Active Sex Life
It might sound absurd, but how often have you heard that a relationship was affected over time because of lack of sex. It is a real problem faced by many couples and they don’t realize the importance of it. After marriage, the sex lives of most couples get slow and boring. They start to get busy with work and other things happening around them so much that they neglect their partner and relationship.
Make it a relationship goal to discuss with your partner about your sex life and how you want to keep it up. Active sex life has proven to be a key factor in a healthy relationship. Moreover, other forms of intimacy, like words of love or gestures like a dinner in a romantic setting, also help to keep your relationship healthy.
8. Be Kind with Your Partner
Make it a relationship goal to be kind to your partner. After an argument, people often say things that they don’t really mean. And the things they say can hurt a relationship in many ways. The damage words do goes deep and is not easy to recover from. Therefore, always be kind to your partner even when you are irritated and angry. This relationship goal will help nurture your relationship into a successful and happy one.
Following these relationship goals will foster your relationship and help you and your partner to develop an unbreakable bond. Review your relationship and keep working hard for it.