For shy and introvert guys, it’s often difficult to approach a girl in public or at a party and just ask her out on a date. Working up the courage to talk to a cute girl can be a huge challenge and simply terrifying. The fear of rejection is what often holds back guys from making their move. If you are one of them then don’t worry because today we’ll teach you exactly how to approach a girl and earn a date with her. Are you excited already? Well, then let’s get started and learn the art of wooing your romantic interest:
Don’t Overthink — Just Approach Her Immediately
If you happen to spot a girl that you would like to spark a conversation with, then go ahead and do it without wasting time. That’s right; don’t overthink the conversation or what her mood is like from a distance. Simply walk up to her and talk. This is because the longer you wait to approach her, the creepier you’ll look to her. And if you thought that she hasn’t noticed you, well then let us tell you that women have this natural instinct and can easily tell who is looking at them and how. So, instead of coming across as creepy, gather yourself, walk up to her and strike up a friendly conversation with her.
Start a Conversation while Maintaining Eye Contact with Her
Making eye contact with a potential romantic partner may be an ancient method but it works every time. It’s important for three reasons. It is a sign of confidence, creates a sense of closeness and makes a woman feel that you’re very interested in what she has to say. So, make sure to establish eye contact with her when you start a conversation. But, when looking at her, don’t just check her out with a head-to-toe eye sweep. Instead, maintain eye contact to notice her and see if she’s interested in you.
Approach from the Side
Most of us tend to be on guard when surrounded by strangers in public. When approaching a woman in a public place, don’t approach her from the front or behind as it can be intimidating. Try to approach her from the side. This way, she will be able to see you coming towards her and be prepared for your presence instead of being startled. You can pivot thereafter your initial approach. Talk to her over your shoulder but turn in when you talk. This will make her feel comfortable and she’d willingly respond.
Keep the Conversation Light and Fun—Don’t Be a Quiz Master
No woman loves being interrogated, especially by a stranger who’s meeting her for the first time. Don’t ask questions like:
- Where are you from?
- Where do you live?
- What is your age?
- What do you do for a living?
- How many kids do you want?
These are not playful questions. Such kind of conversation sounds very interrogative and may seem as if she is being chased by the FBI. Besides, it sounds boring and feels more like an interview.
To make a girl feel comfortable and like you back, you need to have a conversation that keeps her interested in talking with you more. Some great examples of conversation starters include:
✔ Ask for Advice
Ask her for advice. If you happen to meet her at the gym, then ask her questions like is it worth signing up here? How’s the trainer? What do you like about it?
✔ Be Playful
If you meet her at a coffee shop, you can start a casual conversation by saying that you have an emergency and can’t decide whether to order café latte or Americano. Ask her to help you make the right choice.
✔ Ask Her for a Favor
Another way is to ask her for a favor like can you hold my jacket please for a sec so that I can grab these drinks? Then you can thank her and start your conversation from getting to know each other’s names and then so on.
Bring a Wing Girl
A wingman is great, but a wing girl is even better. In fact, a wing girl is like the ultimate social proof. With a wing girl by your side, you don’t have to worry about how to approach a girl because she will help you with it. A wing girl can be your friend, cousin or sister. Her role will be to make you look good. And that is what you want.
Close Things Well
After striking a great conversation with a girl, you need to end it on a positive note as well, before the end drags out to the point that it ruins the entire interaction between the two of you. So, don’t let the conversation to go from good to too long and then awkward and uncomfortable.
To avoid that, end the conversation by saying that it was nice meeting her. But before you hit off, ask her when you can meet her next time. Ask her on a date or at least get her number so that you can stay in touch with her and then meet up with her sometime. At this point, you want to keep things casual and not too forced.
When it comes to how to approach a girl, the one thing that you need to make sure is that you come across as a pleasant person and not creepy. You must show interest in her and not just her body. Remember, women like men who are confident, they can feel comfortable with and who listen to what they have to say. So be that man and win her over.