So your boyfriend broke up with you and you are missing him like crazy every hour of every day.
You can’t sleep, you barely eat.. or eat too much, you can’t stop thinking at him, your life seems to be a mess.
Or maybe it was you who broke up with him, but then you realized that you made a huge mistake!
And now, you are wondering how to make him miss you… Well, you came to the right place.
We all have been there, you are not the first and will not be the last. And now, you don’t know what to do, you want him back in your life.
But things are a mess. Words were said and anger was spewed. So now what?…
How are you supposed to go from this bad situation to getting back together? How to make your ex boyfriend miss you?
The best thing you must do right now, is to be patient and remain calm.
If he realizes that the two of you are meant to be together, that reunion will be just around the corner. But in order to get him to have you on the brain, we first need to follow a few key rules.
Ready? good! So let’s see how to make him miss you. 🙂
1. Give Him Time To Miss You
Tell him you can’t talk to him for a while.
How can you expect to make your ex-boyfriend miss you if you haven’t stopped talking to him?
When a relationship ends, the last thing you want to do is to show him that you are still checking on him. You have to cut any interaction at all, meaning no phone calls, no texting, no Facebook… nothing at all.
At this point, the best move is to give him some space.
You need to give yourself time to heal from the break up. You might even decide after couples days/weeks that breaking up was in fact the best decision for both of you, making it easier to move on in that case.
Also, if he has some time away from you, he will reflect on the relationship, and he may be more willing to get back together after he has had time and space to miss you.
But how do you keep that “No Contact rule” when all you want to do is flip through your phone?
If he’s the one keeping the contact going, let him know that he must stop, that you need time to heal. He should respect that.
You might even remove his number from your phone so you don’t get tempted to call or text him.
2. Get Out and be Active
Another Great way to heal after a breakup is to get a life.
Surely, there is nothing wrong at spending some quality time at home watching movies and tv shows. But you must not isolate yourself from the outside world!
Meet your friends, even if you don’t feel like it. Go for a walk around your neighborhood. Go shopping. You should even do some sport, it is known that exercise gives your brain a boost of dopamine, and after a breakup, you need all the happy hormones you can get. It will ll be hard at first, but once you realize how much better you feel. you’ll realize it was worth it.
It is important that you don’t spend your days alone at home being sad. Rather than staying home and feeling sorry for yourself. Plan some sort of trip or vacation, go visit your family and friends.
3. Take Care of Yourself
If you’re looking for more tips on how to make him miss you, your first and foremost goal after a breakup is to get yourself together.
Who wants to get back together with a whining and crying ex-girlfriend? i know i wouldn’t. So the time for tears is over, now it is time to get up and rise above sadness!
Use this time that you’re not talking to your ex to get back to yourself.
Maybe you have friends that you have put aside for months to go out with your boyfriend.
So now is the perfect time to reconnect with those friends.
They will be there for you emotionally in your time of need, and if they don’t, you always have family.
If you had mutual friends and the breakup has put a dent in your social circle, go out and make new friends! Attend mixers and happy hours and be open to new friendships.
Boost Your Health
Now more than ever, it’s important to take care of your health. Realize that your body is vulnerable right now, and you may be more prone to getting sick.
Scientific research has shown that after couples split up, people very often become stressed and demoralized, especially after a long relationship. which can have a serious negative impact on the immune system.
Think about it: you became so used to having your partner around, especially if you lived together or just spent a lot of time together. Now that he’s gone, everything feels out of sync. You can’t sleep without him next to you. Your body temperature might even be going wonky. All of this is normal, but you need to really take care of your health right now.
So while you don’t want to spend all your time on the couch feeling sorry for yourself, you also don’t want to overbook yourself going out, taxing your immune system. Find the balance. If you start to feel run down, cancel your plans for the night and take a nice hot bath.
So, treat your body properly. My personal suggestion for that? Sport! it is well known that sport has very good effects on the mind and body.
Another way to have some distance between you and your ex in this critical No Contact period is to unfollow your ex on social media. Why? Because we know that if you’re following him, you’ll be more attached to stalking him er, keeping tabs on what he’s doing. You may be thrown into tears if you see him posing in a photo with another woman (who actually turns out to be a cousin). It’s not healthy.
Just because you unfollow him doesn’t mean he’ll unfollow you, especially on sites like Twitter and Instagram, so be aware of what you’re posting. Do you think a steady stream of why did he leave me? Woe is me! will make your ex-boyfriend miss you? Nah. He’ll probably be glad you split up.
Now, I’m not saying you need to make your life look more fabulous than it is just to pose for him. But since you’re taking my advice and getting out into the world, it can’t hurt to post photos of you being happy. Genuinely happy, not fake happy.
The best way for you to heal your heart (even if you do get back together with him down the road) is to just be patient and give it time. Your heart is an open wound, and you need time for it to scab over.
I know you want to rush through the pain, but grief has no timeline. There is not a single thing you can do to rush the process of healing. I’m sorry. I wish there was.
Whether or not you get back with your ex, you need to reserve enough time for you to process what happened, get used to being away from him, and decide whether reuniting is really what’s best for you. It may not be, and you won’t know that until you’ve had some distance and time to work through your emotions.
6. Make him wait a bit before returning his texts and calls
When he calls or sends a text, you want to respond back immediately, especially if you’ve been waiting to hear from him for a while. It is a mistake!
Responding to his calls or texts right away sends the message that you are just sitting by your phone waiting for him to contact you. A good rule of thumb is to make him wait. These little games may look silly but they work. Patience is a virtue, and it will help you when it comes to texting and calling.