Many of us if not all of us have thought about the soulmate concept before. But What is a soul mate exactly? How do I found one? And how do I know I did find that person?
The idea that there is one special person created just for you is too juicy not to consider.
“A soulmate is an ongoing connection with another individual that the soul picks up again in various times and places over lifetimes. We are attracted to another person at a soul level not because that person is our unique compliment, but because by being with that individual, we are somehow provided with an impetus to become ourselves.” – Edgar Cayce.
What is a Soulmate?
I definitely believe in soul mates, in my opinion, it is not just a Walt Disney Fantasy. However, my definition of “Soulmate” extends beyond the traditional idea of “The One”. I don’t think soul mates are simply defined by the people we date. This person could very well be a partner, maybe a parent, a sibling or even a friend who has always been there for you.
Soul mates are brought into your life so that you can not only flourish in love and happiness but also expand into a better version of yourself. Soul mates are People who change our lives for the better just by being in it.
Now let’s look at the romantic side. I believe that a soulmate can be a person with whom you are inexplicably drawn to be in a relationship. Let’s think about attraction for a second.
We come into contact with many people every day. Like friends, coworkers, family or total strangers. And sometimes, we are attracted to some of them. But there are only a few that we will feel so attracted to, that we make a decision to partner up with them. It’s the connection we can’t explain. It’s the relationship that feels unlike any other.
What is a Soul Mate? It is a person you accept without thinking, and someone who will accept you as you are. That person will inspire you to improve yourself over time.
Finding Your Soulmate.
The first truth in how to find that special someone is to understand the nature of a soulmate. Most people do not sit down to understand what a soul mate is. As a result, most people often force the wrong person into fitting the soulmate mold. If you want to know how to find your life partner, then you need to actually “know,” rather than wing it in understanding what a soulmate is.
Very often, people don’t listen to their inner voice. Also called “instinct”, it is the thing that guides us, it holds our hand and walks beside us in whatever direction we are meant to be going in.
When something deep inside tells you this is the perfect one for you if you feel a strong urge to enter a relationship with a person. You probably are on the right path.
Sometimes soulmates are the polar opposite. These are the times when you have to let the other person complete you. You still have your own opinion, but instead of agreeing to disagree, you listen and honor the differences. Because there is a deep level of mutual respect.
Relationships with soulmates are still a relationship, and a soulmate is still a person.
All relationships have ups and downs and there will always be obstacles and bumps in the road. Obviously, there is no such thing as a relationship without issue.
A soulmate relationship might have fewer problems than most relationships, but even a soulmate relationship will have its challenges, it is inevitable.
A good relationship is not about having zero issue or differences since there is no such thing anyway. A good and healthy relationship is about mutual respect, communication, chemistry, knowing how to find comprises when there are differences. A couple who are meant to be together will keep fighting for the relationship.
A soulmate is someone who will fill in your blanks. No one is perfect and we all have our strengths and weaknesses. And where your weaknesses are your soulmates will complete you. Soulmates are often opposite that are attracted to a person who has their missing pieces.
Your Soulmate will make you feel like you can be 100% yourself
“A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who were pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person, we’re safe in our own paradise.” – Richard Bach
A soulmate is your best friend. Your teammate. The one person who you are comfortable showing the twisted, weird, awkward sides of yourself that you usually would keep hidden around everyone else.
A soulmate will help you acknowledge and work out of your issues. Then find healthy ways to work with your weaknesses and evolve to become a better yourself. A Soulmate as a life partner will never hold you back in your issues. A soulmate will help learn from mistakes and avoid future problems.
Soulmates are able to strike the right balance between time together and time apart. They trust each other and still feel close when they’re doing separate things, rather than being consumed with jealousy or anxiety.
So if you find yourself really accepting someone in spite of their quirks and neuroses, and you feel that acceptance is mutual, rest assured, you have found your soulmate.