Just Engaged? Here’s What You Should Do First
Newly engaged and newly confused? Congratulations and welcome to the path so many have stumbled down! You’re entering a brief, exciting, and potentially stressful transition in your life. It’s a big, big change to be sure, but don’t worry too much! Follow this guide and you’ll enter the path sure-footed, letting you march proudly where couple after couple has stumbled.
Ensuring and securing your ring
Right before you start sharing every engagement photo with friends, family, and coworkers (and after getting a manicure), there’s one other thing you should do with that gorgeous new ring.
You can and should get insurance coverage for your engagement ring. It’s an easy and inexpensive process. Your homeowner or rental insurance policy should have a rider option for jewelry, but you can also get coverage from an insurance company specializing in jewelry.
The next step is to get your new ring resized – if needed. Depending on where your fiancée bought the ring, many places offer a free adjustment. The fit of your engagement ring is very important for a few reasons but the most important is to be sure you never lose it. It should be tight enough that it doesn’t easily slide off – especially when your fingers shrink in cold water or weather – but not so tight that it’s uncomfortable, considering you will be wearing it 24/7.
Booking a venue and setting a date
Finding the perfect venue for your wedding can be one of the most enjoyable and potentially stressful parts of getting engaged. There are tons of factors that come into play so sit down with your fiancée and do some research beforehand, so you know what’s most important to you.
You should always keep in mind that bigger, more popular venues can also come with bigger problems, especially when it comes to securing a date. For example, if there’s a special date you have in mind, you should book it as soon as possible and put in your deposit so no one can snag your spot. If you don’t have that perfect date in mind and have the leeway of flexibility, you’re in luck! Not only do you have the luxury of being flexible when securing your venue site, but you’ll also have more time to plan the wedding details.
If you have neither a date nor venue in mind, in addition to the side-eye you’re getting from friends and relatives, you’re also getting the best of both worlds. You’ll have the time necessary to plan out your wedding date fully, and you’ll have the benefit of picking a local venue with both financial and feasibility appeal. Looking to hold a wedding in the Southwest, for example, but have no idea where you’d start looking? Start your search by looking for local, less popular or untraditional venues. After all, your wedding day is a special occasion and it’s not something you want to rush when it comes to location or date.
When settling on a date, you should also keep in mind some additional factors. If your guests have to travel to get to your venue, make sure it’s moderately reasonable to do so. The option to choose whether they drive or fly is ideal for most guests. It might be best supply guests with a map to the venue and entertain them on their way there too with some road trip games!
Dressing (or suiting) up
A dozen family members may already have wedding gown shops and dresses picked out for you, but a thousand strangers will also be willing to give you their (unwanted) advice.
Our advice? Take it and leave it. Take everyone’s advice in stride, and then ultimately, choose whatever dress you want. It’s your day and you should wear whatever you feel comfortable in. If you’re dwelling on it a night, it might not be a great pick, even if it looks great. If it’s fancy and looks good, but you can’t justify the price, know that there are plenty of gowns out there. If you put it on, feel good and like the price, that’s your outfit.
Building a wedding website
Everything and everyone is going digital, and for good reason! While it might seem obnoxious to have a website just for your own wedding, it’s become a new standard for couples because it provides guests with a centralized hub for information that they’d otherwise lose. You can put up directions, contact information, parking instructions, the catering options, have them RSVP, submit suggestions, share photos, contribute to the gift registry, and more! You can even use it as a reference point for potential wedding photographers and caterers for your event.
Your wedding website is what you make it, so find a domain, a template, and start funneling all your upcoming wedding information there so you won’t have to answer any more of your relatives’ emails! Just remember to vet any vendors who contact you through your site to make sure they’re legit. The last thing you want to have to worry about is identity theft before your big day.
We’ve talked about the stress involved being engaged and preparing for a wedding, but it would be a mistake not to expound on how thrilling the months can be leading up to your walk down the aisle! The many joys leading to it are all yours to discover and experience, but only if you take the time to actually allow yourself to experience them.
Deadlines and duties tend to overwhelm us as we try to incorporate the massive planning of a wedding into our daily lives, so it’s all the more important that you schedule in periods of relaxation to alleviate your stress. Relaxing before the big day can mean everything from taking a nap or watching a movie, to going for a run and kayaking. Just make sure your activities are not at all wedding related. That said, it’s also a great time to find some activities to do with your bridal party.
It’s a good idea to make some of this relaxation time just for you, but reserve some for your partner, family members, and friends, in that order of importance. Allow these time periods to remind you why you’re getting married, why the family is so important, and why friendships are so priceless.