confused between friendship

Updated on December 12, 2018 in Relationship
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So I was good friends with this guy in college some 15 years back. We were just friends but good close friends. Soon after college, I met my husband and we got married and moved to another town. My husband didn’t like him much, so I stopped all communication with him. After a few good years of marital bliss, our differences and incompatibilities started to show. I tried to stick around because of kids but a couple of years ago we got divorced. About a year ago my friend and I connected online, and we started talking. He told me his marriage hasn’t been going so well either for some time. Its been kind of on the verge of separation/divorce but nothing is on paper yet. They still live under the same roof, for the sake of their young kid, but not in the same room. We still live in different cities so communication is only through text and calls (sometimes long late night calls). We talk once a week or even less. Our talks are mainly about the good old days or we fill each other in with what happened in our lives, good times and bad, and sometimes just vent out our daily frustrations to each other. During the course of these conversations, he has hinted a few times for us to see if we could be more than friends now. I think I wouldn’t mind exploring if he was not married but at this point, I don’t like the idea as he is still living with his wife. I don’t want to be the ‘other woman’, so I told him that I would like us to be just friends like we were. He agreed, but I think he still hopes for it and keeps telling me that their divorce will be soon sorted out. He also told me that he has been looking for friends/companions online.
Last week he told me that he is planning to come to visit me. I must admit I am excited to see him but at the same time, I am scared as I think I might be encouraging him. Am I right in thinking that?
Will I be wrong if I meet up with him or go out with him for let’s say dinner or movie, or hang out with him and show him around town. He does not know anyone else in this town. He is only coming to see me. And I do want to meet him and spend time with him…Is it wrong?
Hoping for some opinions and advice.
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So I was good friends with this guy in college some 15 years back. We were just friends but good close friends. Soon after college, I met my husband and we got married and moved to another town. My husband didn’t like him much, so I stopped all communication with him. After a few good years of marital bliss, our differences and incompatibilities started to show. I tried to stick around because of kids but a couple of years ago we got divorced. About a year ago my friend and I connected online, and we started talking. He told me his marriage hasn’t been going so well either for some time. Its been kind of on the verge of separation/divorce but nothing is on paper yet. They still live under the same roof, for the sake of their young kid, but not in the same room. We still live in different cities so communication is only through text and calls (sometimes long late night calls). We talk once a week or even less. Our talks are mainly about the good old days or we fill each other in with what happened in our lives, good times and bad, and sometimes just vent out our daily frustrations to each other. During the course of these conversations, he has hinted a few times for us to see if we could be more than friends now. I think I wouldn’t mind exploring if he was not married but at this point, I don’t like the idea as he is still living with his wife. I don’t want to be the ‘other woman’, so I told him that I would like us to be just friends like we were. He agreed, but I think he still hopes for it and keeps telling me that their divorce will be soon sorted out. He also told me that he has been looking for friends/companions online.
Last week he told me that he is planning to come to visit me. I must admit I am excited to see him but at the same time, I am scared as I think I might be encouraging him. Am I right in thinking that?
Will I be wrong if I meet up with him or go out with him for let’s say dinner or movie, or hang out with him and show him around town. He does not know anyone else in this town. He is only coming to see me. And I do want to meet him and spend time with him…Is it wrong?
Hoping for some opinions and advice.
Thank

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